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The ABCD Method of New Beginnings

Follow the ABCD method to turn resolutions into life long habits.

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A new year, a new you?  At least for a few weeks, eh? The gyms are packed. Personal trainers are working their own tushies off. Sparks are flying.

Motivation is a beautiful thing. January brings a new oxygen to the planet. As if we require some universal signal that it’s ok to declare a new beginning. Much like the first day of school. The backpack is full of new stuff–tools sharpened and minds eager.

Take full advantage at any time of year to declare a new beginning. If it’s January 1st, that’s great! If it’s your birthday, a Monday, or the first day of class—perfect!

There is extraordinary power in beginning.  Read more

Filled Up On Empty

There's a lot pack rats can learn from disposers.

I’m a ditcher. I get great pleasure out of dumping unused clothes, items and household goods. I don’t develop deep attachments to stuff. Clutter is my enemy. I hate clutter– the look of it and how I feel around it. It makes me nervous and uncomfortable.

I’ve always enjoyed visiting homes for sale even if I’m not in the market. Why? Because they’re empty. I like empty rooms. It’s as if there is more oxygen to breathe. There’s a sense of lightness and freedom. No heavy objects or distractions.

Do you prefer to walk into the Apple store or Macy’s department store? Your answer reveals a lot about you. Read more

Interpersonal Warfare- 5 Cease Fire Tactics You May Not Have Tried

Next time you're batting heads with someone, give these strategies a try.

My friend called me upset and angry. She had a blow out fight with her boyfriend and couldn’t get past the frustration that he wouldn’t comply with a simple request she made of him. The request wasn’t significant but his refusal was monumental.

My friend attached deep meaning to his turndown causing her heart to feel weighted. Not expecting his reaction turned her hurt into fury. Nothing will launch anger faster than being thrown for a loop. Read more

Be Thankful

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The 5 Things Those in the Driver’s Seat Want You To Know

Being in control ALL the time can be exhausting.

Who are the strong leaders in your life? Those you can count on to be decisive. That uncanny ability to cut through a mess to bring the light shining in. We all know someone we love to hate because they always seem to have their s@#t together. But deep down we don’t hate them. We appreciate having them in our lives. They are our solid wall, firmly grounded, and we know we can throw any ball at the wall and it will bounce back to us in a way we can catch it. Read more

The 6 Needs That Drive All Human Behavior

Understanding your personal hierarchy of needs is key to sustaining happiness or creating change.

I’ve spent most of my life interested in what drives human behavior. Always believing there has to be a formula to motivate people. The belief that if you have the will, you can find the way.

Walk into any bookstore and the secrets to happiness are in abundance. So why isn’t everybody happy? There is someone in the world who has been successful at whatever you’re failing at right now. Find that book, read it, and follow the instructions. Why isn’t it that simple?

Because happiness, personal drive, desire, perseverance, and success are personal. Very personal. We attach pain and pleasure to different things leading us to happiness or despair. These attachments are based on a hierarchy of 6 universal needs. How you meet these needs determines your level of satisfaction and fulfillment. I first studied these driving forces decades ago in the book, Awaken the Giant Within, by Anthony Robbins.

While these 6 needs are universal, the key is to determine the hierarchy for you. As you rank them, keep in mind what brings you immediate joy may not be behaviors that ultimately make you feel good, are actually good for you, are good for those around you, and serve the greater good.

True life mastery is achieved when your experiences align with these six priority needs. Read more

Top 12 Life Notions I Wish I Knew at 20

Wisdom comes from age, earned through experience, but a heads up sure helps.

As I approach my 49th birthday, I wonder how many more life lessons I still have to learn the hard way. Those mishaps that could be prevented if I knew better.

Some of us grow up as sponges while others are bricks. Being hard headed isn’t always bad. You forgo the opportunity to leap frog over obstacles others previously conquered. Rather, you choose to face each adversity head on and figure out your own way. The sponge moves ahead faster but may be less equipped to deal with life’s curve balls.

If you’ve read my Sid’s Sense series, you certainly know I’ve lived as a sponge. Adding 49 years of life experience to that borrowed wisdom is what motivated me to share this list. After decades of discovery, here are few life notions I wish I knew when I was twenty. Read more

Fatso!

The line is fuzzy between freedom of expression and bullying.

There are times to keep opinions to yourself.

Wisconsin news anchor, Jennifer Livingston, enjoys the same advantage as Taylor Swift. A public platform to get revenge against someone who offended her. Enter Taylor Swift’s life at your own risk because if you end up on her bad side, you’ll live with your indiscretions on the radio for months. Offend a news anchor and she will have the last word on air at your expense. Read more

RUNNING Away From Injury: Injured & Cranky

A good habit is hard to break.

View previous post in this series, RUNNING Away From Injury.

We become dependent on our daily regimens. Especially runners. When the body screams “STOP!” and you refuse to listen, silent sirens of pain are triggered forcing you to limp to the side of the road. Like speed limit signs, ignore them long enough and the cops will eventually get you.

You can mask pain with ibuprofen, Kinesio tape, or even steroids, but the band-aids don’t cure the inflammation underneath.

Time heals. Rest rejuvenates. All words an injured runner doesn’t want to hear.  Read more

Words We Should(n’t) Live By

Proceed with caution when using common clichés.

Protect yourself from potentially harmful clichés.

Clichés are so popular in America that there’s hardly a day you don’t say or hear one. I read hundreds of clichés in preparing this post and their value is apparent.

Used to validate, encourage, dismiss, or explain behavior, clichés are catchy language crutches that justify intention.

We need them. Their overuse is useful. Everyone knows what we mean without explanation. Listeners accept our word jingle as a condensed proclamation of our current state of affairs.

But watch out. Some clichés can be dicey.  Read more